This week was really exciting because we got the genetics test results back and we found out what we are having!!!
I received the call around 4:45pm on Monday evening and was sitting on J’s bed when the call came through. I was informed that everything came back negative and that baby is healthy. I was then asked if I was on speakerphone and if I wished to keep it that way. Then she said, “It’s a…!”
I looked at my son and asked him if we heard correctly and then he exclaimed that we had to hurry up and head to Party City so we could get balloons for the gender reveal to Daddy. We zoomed up the road feeling the time crunch because we wanted to invite him over for the football game and to act like that was all it was, just dinner and football. I knew I had to tempt him with something delicious and suggested Philly Cheesesteak sandwiches.
While at Party City J picked out two of every shade of the gender colors they had and settled on a very large mylar balloon. Once we got our balloon bouquet I had to shove them into the backseat of the Mustang with J. Again, seeing how little room there was has me wanting that Lexus NX more and more. Ha!
I got the balloons and J dropped off and saw that I only had 30 minutes until kickoff and had to dash through the grocery store picking up all of the ingredients.
Thankfully I made it home in time to prep the meal and see the card that J had made for him.
I felt so nervous and couldn’t wait for him to walk through the door.
When he did, J met him at the very front with a card that read “Touchdowns or Tutus?” and on the inside he drew a photo of the three of us with a naked baby and a huge question mark over baby in red. His message said, “Welcome to the family.”
The balloons were in the corner of the dining room and they were floor length. The funniest thing happened because he took his hat off and set it down on the kitchen counter. I’m thinking how in the heck is this man missing this giant balloon bouquet?! But even crazier he’s 6′ 7″ and the balloons were right at his eye level. He freakin walked right by them and didn’t even see them. J and I looked at each other in disbelief laughing. As he came out of the pantry he asked which Philly Cheesesteak was his and I couldn’t help but have to laugh and say, “Really?!!” Confused he looks at me as I shift my eyes from him to the balloons and back to him a couple of times.
The plate he was holding was now shaking and his eyes watered up and he will claim he didn’t cry. I’ll give it to him since a tear never rolled but you could see it on his face. He was in shock.
All he kept saying over and over again was, “It’s a girl.”
After his nerves calmed we ate dinner not talking about it. I wanted him to process on his own. Once we were done eating he went outside to smoke and then he came in and had the name pronunciations for the girl’s name we already had picked out. We settled on her name right then.
He always knew he wanted his son to be named Zion and had a thought about us having twins so we had discussed girl names that started with a “Z”. He was sold on Zora or Zoey and out of the two I loved Zoey best but one night we were watching the movie, Gods of Egypt, and one of the characters names was Zaia. I knew for the last three months if it was a girl I was going to try to convince him of this name. Well last night the spelling of Zaia was ruled out after he did a search of the name meaning and one of them was “demon princess”. Haha! So he found a name variation and we agreed on Zaya.
Zaya’s middle name is a tribute to both of our mother’s. His mom’s middle name is Ann and my mom’s name is Roxane. A good compromise was Anne.
Now we’re anxiously waiting to meet her. We’re both already so in love with her.
The nausea has finally let up and I have been nausea free for a couple of days now with increased energy. I was finally able to get back to my daily routine and prioritizing household chores again.
I am still experiencing anxiety over finances especially with daycare costs. I have number crunched over and over and really I am struggling to see how I am going to make it work. It scares the hell out of me. Right now, I am going to have to present a modified work from home schedule with my boss to see if we can make it work to cut my daycare expense at least in half.
Pregnancy and stress aren’t helping the acne situation. My face has thankfully cleared up but my chest is breaking out now. Ugh.
Still have extremely tender breasts and am so grateful Daddy is always able to massage them for me when needed and the tenderness is almost non-existent for a couple of days.
Frequency of urination has really picked up and to help strengthen my pelvic floor muscles I’m not answering every call to the bathroom right away. Instead I’m holding it for about 15 minutes before release. I’m also getting keels regularly as well. Make sure if you are practicing them as well that you have proper form.
My hair and fingernails are very strong and I’m wanting to take advantage of these longer nails by treating myself to an at home manicure. It has been since before finding out about the pregnancy that I had a chance to do them.
Ready for bed around 8pm every night and struggle most mornings to get out of bed. Up a couple of times a night to pee. Hot then cold so I wrestle with the sheets and a pillow between my legs is a must. I’ve been avoiding naps on the weekends now that my energy levels have returned and don’t like the thought of sleeping my day away. If I need one though you can guarantee I will listen to my body.
Since I am back to feeling human again and the nausea has subsided I am back to meal planning and trying to stick to my Whole30 lifestyle. This has been easier to do because Zaya hasn’t had me experiencing any cravings. Although, the other night I did have the thought to make my homemade Olive Garden dinner and she wouldn’t let me let that idea go. So I made a copycat Zuppa Toscana and salad with cheesy breadsticks. Oh my gosh!! This was the most satisfying meal this pregnancy. I felt full and slept solid that night. Haha!!
Now that I’m feeling better I’m not having food aversions anymore. Food sounds good again and food smells aren’t offensive to me.
My biggest diet change has been the fact that I don’t drink coffee like I used to. I maybe have a cup once or twice a week but not even on a daily basis anymore. Weird because everyone knows coffee was my thing. I’m completely out of K-Cups and this more when I saw a Groupon for a 40-ct variety pack for $19 I actually passed it up. So unlike me.
Found in the form of household chores. I’m fitting in what I can when I can but still find myself lacking time in my day to handle all of my household and motherly duties for J. I do have best intentions of getting daily workouts in but a clean house is top priority for me.
What I’m Wearing:
My go to is sweatpants and baggy t-shirts, even to wear to work. I just stay tucked in at my cubicle and try not to move around the office too much.
My body is definitely expanding in my stomach, butt, and thighs. My favorite sweats I wore for working out prior to this pregnancy are now feeling snug.
I do need to be on the lookout for some larger v-cut sports bras since I’m starting to get spillage over the sides.
Looking Forward To:
Feeling Zaya move and my belly to move out of this awkward “looking fat” phase rather than pregnant. Only Daddy and my best friend can see the actual baby bump changes since they pay the most attention to me.
If a woman ever says she’s pregnant no matter how far along she is, never ever, and I repeat NEVER EVER!! say “I can’t tell”. It’s offensive and I feel the want to bitch slap those people who say it.
Bought for Baby:
I took advantage of a couple of Columbus Day sales and purchased a pair of seafoam green Puma’s for just $15 with free shipping and then hit of Target to check out the selection of Cat & Jack brand leggings that were 50% off and grabbed her a pair of footie jammies spending another $15.
I’m trying to focus on getting my registry completed now that I feeling a little overwhelmed with how much more still needs to be bought and thankfully I have friends who cannot wait to get together to throw me a baby shower. I will need all of the help I can get and their support is appreciated.
I forgot to weigh in first thing this morning so I ended up doing it after breakfast. I gained another 0.6 lbs this week for a total gain of 7.6 lbs this pregnancy. I’m feeling better about this after reading numerous sites and finding out that my number is below the averages.
Grab a copy of, The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, and start educating yourself if you are a first time breastfeeder like I will be. J was formula fed but for the sake of being budget friendly I need to be successful and need to be overly prepared. I have a million questions and I am beyond blessed to have my best friend to turn to with questions since she breastfeed all of her babies.